January 01, 2000
Meetings & Conventions: Short Cuts January 2000 Current Issue
January 2000

Dear Answer Lady,
The president of the association for which I plan meetings has nice things to say about my work every time I talk to him. But it got back to me that during a recent staff meeting I had missed, he wondered aloud what “flophouse” I had booked for an upcoming conference. I don’t know what to make of it. Should I ask him about what he said?
Betrayed and bewildered

Dear B and B,
Well, yes, but that’s the easy part. If he actually did disparage your work publicly while your back was turned, he’s two-faced and wrong six ways from Sunday. Unless he’s a complete ogre, he will be embarrassed and contrite when you call him on it. But don’t let loose the dogs of war; the objective of the confrontation should be to find out what’s behind the remark. If it is perceived that your meetings are subpar, you need that out on the table. Otherwise, you won’t be able to grow as a planner, and you will be denied a fair opportunity to improve your performance and silence your critics.
Live to help&
The Answer Lady

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